A message to my dad: could you please stop commenting on my hair...aka feedback!

Dear dad,

Firstly I love you and deeply miss you. I can’t wait until we can see each other again.

The thing is I’ve been thinking about the times when you visit from Australia, and you may not realise it but the first few words you say (once you’ve recovered from jet lag) are ‘Have you had your hair cut lately?’ I know you mean well. The thing is you don’t tend to stop there. Your feedback extends far and wide into my life.

On the one hand, I get it, you are trying to look after me. I’m deeply greatful for that. But I just want us to be clear that your feedback is more about you than me. You can keep going with your feedback. I’m not here to change you.

I continue to work on myself to see what is activated in me and attend to it. I’m building my capacity to take it.

But dad, I thought it may be helpful for both of us to find out more about feedback, what it delivers us and how we can develop new ways of exchanging our concerns about each other.

If you are questioning how feedback is currently delivered in your organisation; challenging the way things are done or reflecting on your own company culture, then please connect.